Tuesday, February 3, 2009

换个好玩的话题。

今天在我临出门前,和妈咪讨论了包红包的哲学,才意识到这项
艺术真是博大精深啊。我想现阶段的我还是专心收我的压岁钱吧。


虽然并没有把红包里的钱看得很重,但这一定是长辈给予的祝福
的最佳指标。不一定是大钞越多,长辈越疼爱你。以个人的经济基础
为准,和平时的待人处世之道,加上等客观的条件如:经济萧条,最终
在这个大人决定包多少给晚辈时,就是一种亲与不亲的证明。


比方说,甲君收入良好,一向斤斤计较但逢年过节,一定为家人买这
添那的。身为后辈的你,虽然觉得这亲戚很会精打细算,但受到他的
大红包时,是格外的喜出望外。并非是钱多而感到高兴,而是觉受到
甲君的心意。尤其是甲君递红包给你时的那句“学业进步,不要乱花!”
你就会知道这长辈的刀子嘴豆腐心的 pattern了。心里会甜甜暖暖的。


但也有不怕丢脸的,年年包的红包是少到一种境界。有时我这个夫家
那边的小孩会想,若是她娘家的小孩,她是否也会这么吝啬。其实,钱,
我自个又不是不会打工赚;但红包嘛,本来就是一个心意,当然要包得
出诚意啦。尤其是明知大家都特别疼爱她小孩,在经济许可下,都会以
大红包作为含蓄爱的宣言。我妈也不例外,明明觉得很过分,却年年如此
照包大红包给她小孩。而且,还是一年比一年多,因为小孩长大了,所以
我妈认为理当如此。这每年都作的亏本生意真叫人无奈啊。


虽说我妈不是一个以牙还牙的欧巴桑,但还是会发发牢骚:
“真是*米昂搞搞,假牢牢*!”

我忍不住没大没小地打了一句:
“那她岂不是会活到长命百岁?”


我妈笑得乐不可支。






(用了方言说:*面厚厚,吃老老*。意思:厚脸皮的人吃得多,吃到老。

cherchez la femme

when a man behaves out of character or in an otherwise apparently inexplicable manner, the reason may be found in his trying to cover up an illicit affair with a woman. - wiki, verbatim.

how apt a phrase to use in
my context. han asked me to go with my instinct, 'a woman's intuition is scary.' and so is the truth revealed. it wasn't so much of the fear factor that it's affirmative. this is the stage for disappointment. great display of such emotion would become blasé.

'if he didn't change for the worst, and things are pretty much the same, why expose him and hurt her?'

to forgive once and even allow the luxury of trusting you again, seemed to be a mistake. 'though, she's still blissfully ignorant, i bite my lips not to tell despite all the irrationality. that argument above, floated into my mind and was being chased and chided by my.. moral fibers? (of its foundation is largely based on truth and honesty)(which is being shaped by his+her kindness and their way of life and now shaken by his.. infidelity.)

when one fouls for the first time, and you decide to give a chance. i deem it as his/her fault and give you the credit of being magnanimous. BUT (a very fat and ugly but) this creep screws up again, are you still giving chances? it would be your problem to misplace your trust again.

that i labeled it - stupidity.

well, i think i would be a victim of it. sooner or later.